Is using Santa as a threat something that’s likely to get your kids to fall into line at this time of year? Or more likely a surefire way to send you hurtling towards a festive breakdown? An expert dishes their best Santa advice…
We’re just single digit days away from Christmas. You may or may not have elves (of the Elf on the Shelf kind) at your home, ready to report back to Santa. And, your kids – look, much like the adults – may be finding the final stretch to Christmas, rather darn exhausting and might just be hanging on by a thread.
Let’s be real for a second – it can be so easy to whip out the ol’ “If you don’t listen, I will call Santa” or “Santa is watching, so you better be good.”
Using this kind of threat about the big guy in red seems harmless, right? Well, maybe not, warns parenting expert Genevieve Muir.
“It’s tempting when everyone’s exhausted, but using Santa as a tool to control behaviour (‘Santa’s watching!’) can backfire,” she told nine.com.au.
“It can raise cortisol and increase the chance of big feelings and meltdowns as we get closer to the big day.”
Now as parents, we can all agree that trying to limit meltdowns especially around the festive season when things already feel so busy and chaotic is something to be mindful of.
But she explained that using Santa as a threat won’t actually change your kid’s behaviour.
“The biggest reason of all that threatening to phone Santa won’t help your child behave better or stop hitting their sibling: kids don’t muck up deliberately,” she explained.
“Kids go well when they can, and poor behaviour is never their first choice. In fact, ironically it is when our kids are behaving badly that they need the most love.”
Muir explained threats and punishments don’t address the underlying reason kids are mucking up.
This time of year also brings up a conversation parents need to have as a couple: are you going to introduce Santa? Or are you going to avoid introducing that?
It’s a tricky one to navigate and ultimately, it’s going to be different for every family.
“There’s no one right way,” Muir said about the introduction of Santa, or not.
“For some families, Santa is part of the fun and magic; for others, they prefer to focus on generosity or family traditions instead.”
So with the festive season fast approaching, it’s time to have your discussions about the big man in red, even if it’s the hard chat with your older kids.
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