Valentine’s Day is almost upon us and if you’re bedroom time is lacking a little spice lately, you might need to, er, take matters into your own hands in preparation for the big day! Our resident sexpert @emintoyland shares her top seven reasons why you should never overlook masturbation.
Thinking about a ménage à moi? You should! Masturbation needs to stop being a taboo topic because the benefits cannot be denied.
And when something is good for all genders, then surely, it’s good to do together right?
We hear a lot about men masturbating but very little about women and non-binary folks. If you have a clitoris there are very few slang terms for solo love. Flicking the bean? Auditioning the finger puppets? Jillin’ off rather than Jackin’ off?
Whatever you want to call it – a Girl’s Night In is a great act of self-love. But did you know it can be really beneficial for your relationship too?
Many studies have found that masturbation is great for your mental and physical health, and dozens of health professionals have also noted the benefits of masturbating in a relationship!
It might sound counterintuitive to engage in self-love when you’re part of a couple but it’s really not. There are so many reasons that you should masturbate regularly in a relationship. Whether you’re not sure where to start or keen to try something else to set the sparks flying, here’s why every loving relationship should include regular masturbation!
Masturbating makes you feel great
Time and time again, masturbation and self-love has been proved to be incredibly beneficial. The pleasure associated with orgasms can help to improve your mental health, as the endorphins released can help improve your overall mood. Plus, masturbation can help with your self-esteem and body image, which is crucial to feel happy and healthy and confident in bed.
A loving relationship should be full of communication and confidence, and you should be able to support each to discover and enjoy each other’s bodies. Learning what feels great helps you feel good about yourself and your body. A healthy dose of masturbation is essential for your wellbeing.
Masturbating can help with low or mismatched libidos
If your partner has a lower libido, or sex drive, than you, it can be hard to find a happy medium in your relationship. Likewise, if your libido is lower than theirs. For some people, sex can be a huge part of a relationship, and others just simply aren’t as interested. Masturbation can help ensure both of you are sexually satisfied in a relationship.
Of course, you should always communicate with your partner to understand their needs, and ensure they understand your needs as well. There is always a happy medium, but masturbation can take the pressure off and keep everyone satisfied.
A person’s libido can change throughout a relationship and that’s totally normal! However, there are a range of things, including birth control and certain medications that can put a dampener on your sex life. If you’re worried, it’s always best to chat to your doctor for an expert’s advice.
Masturbating helps you know your body and theirs too!
There are so many ways to have and give pleasure. Masturbation is one of them. Simply watching your partner enjoy themselves can be inspiring. You can learn exactly what you like and don’t like – and your partner can learn with you. Your body changes over time with age and if you have children or lose or gain weight. It’s always good to check in, your needs might have changed – what you love and don’t love is evolving. Check in with yourself. Relearn what gets you off through masturbation.
Even if you’re getting plenty of lovin’ in the bedroom, masturbation is perfect for self-exploration and communication. If you don’t know what gets you going, it’s near impossible for a partner to know – so do yourself a favour and get practising!
Mutual masturbation is awesome
Mutual masturbation AKA masturbating at the same time as your partner is great for a healthy relationship! It can be extremely erotic and a great way to spice things up in the bedroom. Whether you’re wanting to show your partner exactly how you like it, or tease them for a love making sesh later on, masturbating in front of each other is a great way to strengthen your connection. Plus, it shows a deeper level of trust and acceptance!
If you’re in a long-distance relationship, masturbation can help satisfy the sexual desire and lust! It can be hard to keep the spark alive with sexting, flirty Snapchats and phone calls. But why not make the most of today’s technology with Skype or FaceTime and enjoy a sexy video session?!
Using toys can spice things up!
Sometimes people find toys intimidating if they haven’t seen what’s new out there. The veiny giant penises of old have been replaced by incredible discrete products that benefit everyone! A clitoral stimulator like the world-famous Satisfyer Pro can spice up any masturbation session. Your partner will delight in seeing how fast you can orgasm! A sexy kit can be a great way to enjoy quite a few toys you’ve never tried before – use them on yourself while your partner watches or let them try. You can even get amazing toys now that sync to your partner’s phone so even if you’re in a long-distance relationship you can still masturbate together.
Masturbation leads to better sex
Getting in the mood can be hard after a long day at work or looking after the kids. Masturbation can be a way to ease into some sexy times. Masturbating next to each other or in front of each other can kick off those hot feelings and before you know it – it’s all on! Masturbating allows you to show what you like and ensure orgasms. Masturbating can put you back on track reminding you why you love sex. It can also help you communicate what you want – more of this, less of that – keep going right there!
What are you waiting for?!
Masturbation is normal and healthy. It’s part of human nature and it definitely shouldn’t stop once you’re in a relationship! To ensure your mental and physical health and keep your relationship happy and loving, masturbation is key!
Emma Hewitt’s podcast Electro Rodeo celebrates sexuality, sex toys and healthy sex lives.
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