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Tuesday, January 13, 2026

The Single Woman’s Sexual Self Care Guide – How To Feel Sexy, Confident and Satisfied Solo

With our schedules jam-packed, many of us let our sexual self care slide. But the good news is, there are some simple steps we can take to make sure we are taking care of our sexual needs during this busy time. 

Making extra time for sexual self-care is also important to keep yourself happy and healthy. And, there’s no time like the present to put a sexual self-care routine into action.

So whether you decide to treat yourself to a brand new vibrator or get stuck into some new reading material, Lovehoney’s sexperts have five tips to fit in some very special ‘you time’.

Dress up for yourself

Whether you’re out at a bar with friends, or wandering the aisles in Countdown, knowing that you’re wearing some sexy lingerie on its own or beneath your clothes is a surefire way to give you an extra dose of confidence.

45% of women say that wearing matching lingerie adds to their confidence and why not? It’s an empowering way to express some self-love and look incredible as you do it.

If you really want to turn up the heat, go for something racy in red – it flatters any complexion and has a proven positive impact on confidence. Alternatively, a sexy black bodysuit never goes out of style, plus 85% of women say wearing back underwear gives them confidence. And remember – the more straps, lace and peek-a-boo holes, the better.

Get wet and wild

Nothing says ‘me-time’ like a long steamy bubble bath. Throw in your favourite sex toys and you’ve got the perfect self-care scenario. Luckily, there are plenty of waterproof vibrators available to whet your appetite.

Whether you’re new to the sex toy game or a pro, a waterproof toy is the perfect way to relax even further as you soak. Top tip: pour yourself a glass of something special and light a few candles to really set the mood.

Experiment

Being single is a great time to find out what you really like without the pressure of wanting to please a partner. Although you probably already have an idea of the type of things that turn you on, there’s no harm in experimenting on your own terms with your own masturbation.

If you’ve only ever climaxed with clitoral stimulation, try experimenting with a vibrator like the Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl Rabbit Vibrator which combines thrilling clitoral sensations with an internal G-Spot massage. Alternatively, if you’ve always been curious about anal play, spend your evening in the bedroom getting acquainted with a vibrating butt plug And remember, lube is key. 

Don’t put any pressure on yourself to orgasm. The fun part is spending time exploring what you enjoy and getting to know your pleasure spots. An orgasm is just an added bonus.

Work out

Use your time to embrace exercise of a different kind with the help of a love egg or some jiggle balls. Designed to strengthen and tone your pelvic floor muscles, toner balls can also result in enhanced orgasms and tighter muscles.

Think of it like you’re training for a big race. Although that race may be months away, it’s never too early to start training. And when you start running that race, you’ll be pleased that you put those hours in beforehand.

Multitask by popping a love egg or some jiggle balls in while you’re doing your house work or walking to shops and get ready to experience all kinds of new sensations. How’s that for a workout?

Catch up on reading

There’s nothing better than using some downtime to catch up on some reading. Not only is it pure escapism, but it keeps your mind active and encourages you to learn more.

If you’ve worn out your copy of 50 Shades of Grey and are looking for your next erotic adventure, why not try sharpening up your knowledge on bondage with a beginner’s guide or alternatively you could practise getting into character with a role play book.

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