Want to know how to have a happy relationship? A well-respected couples counsellor tells us that through her work with countless couples she has seen one thing that all happy couples tend to have in common.
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Is there something that all healthy, happy relationships tend to have in common?
Chelsey Liaga – a passionate therapist and dedicated couples counsellor – definitely thinks so!
Chelsey has worked with countless couples over the years. She has a master’s degree in Social Work from Arizona State University and over five years of teaching experience and brings a unique blend of academic insight and practical guidance to her practice. Chelsey is now one of the dedicated therapists who works at Cupla – a fab app that helps you reconnect with your partner. It’s essentially the utimate relationship management app for busy couples that ensures you make time for one another and prioritise your connection, even when life gets a little crazy.
Chelsey specialises in empowering couples to overcome challenges and deepen their connections, especially when they feel stuck or lack the tools to move forward. Her approach centers on fostering communication, emotional understanding, and practical strategies to help couples achieve greater satisfaction and lasting fulfillment in their relationships.
So, essentially, Chelsey is pretty darn well placed to notice some habits that happy relationships seem to have in common. in fact, there is one thing that she says all happy romantic relationships tend to have in common.
“The happiest couples I have seen all do this one thing: they continue to get to know their spouse,” she says.
“They ask questions, are curious, and don’t assume they know everything about their partner. During the dating phase, you are constantly talking and getting to know each other. But as the relationship progresses couples often stop asking questions or assume they know what the person thinks/believes/desires.”
Chelsey says it’s incredibly important to still be curious about your partner. Obviously, a great way to do this is to ensure you continue to go on dates together, no matter how long you’ve been together, and to keep asking each other questions.
“The truth is everyone is always changing and growing, and often we don’t keep updating our understanding of our spouse,” she says. “This can lead to complacency, miscommunications, and an inauthentic connection. So if you want a healthy relationship then get curious about your partner and don’t stop!”