The stigma around talking about sex is fading, says sexologist Chantelle Otten. But, there’s one – quite harmful – outlook she’d like to see everyone let go of…
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It’s no secret that the way we talk about sex is changing.
The stigma associated with sex is shifting as people become more open to talking about and exploring sexuality.
However, according to renowned sexologist Chantelle Otten there’s still more progress to be made. She says there’s one thing in particular she’d like to see completely phased out.
“One of the most outdated views I’d like to see phased out is the idea that there’s a ‘normal’ way to experience sex or sexuality,” Otten tells 9honey.
She explains that this idea of “normalcy” can be incredibly harmful.
“[It] creates unnecessary pressure and shame for people who don’t fit into a narrow definition of what sex should look like,” she says.
Another misconception Otten says “still lingers in some circles” is the idea that sexual health is any less important than mental or physical health.
“It’s all interconnected, and understanding this can lead to a more holistic approach to overall wellbeing,” she explains, adding that it’s important to remember that sex is about more than just reproduction.
“Sexual pleasure and connection are valid in their own right and should be respected as such.”
Otten is an award-winning sex therapist, having worked in the field for several years and recently launching season two of her podcast Sex Therapy.
She says when she first started out, people weren’t really open to having important conversations around sexual health.
“Many people hesitated to seek help or even acknowledge that sexual health was an important aspect of their overall wellbeing,” she says.
Over the years, she’s seen a shift in the industry, explaining that not only are people now more open to conversations around sex, but there’s also growing recognition that sexual health is just as vital as mental or physical health.
She credits the change to several factors, including increased access to information, the rise of social media and the efforts of educators and advocates.
“People are starting to understand that sexual health is an integral part of overall health and, as a result, there’s been a push towards more open and honest discussions,” Otten says.
“As society becomes more inclusive of different sexual identities and orientations, there’s a greater acceptance of the diverse ways people experience and express their sexuality.”
“However, there’s still a long way to go,” she adds. “We need to continue breaking down barriers and normalising these conversations so that everyone feels empowered to seek the support they need without fear of judgement.”
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