The Love Diaries: A Collection of the Worst Dating App Messages of All Time

Anyone who has spent ANY time on them, has experienced a dating app fail: that moment when you open your inbox with some excitement (and trepidation?) and discover a message that gives you the ick, gives you intense rage or makes you want to just throw your phone out the window and start a new life in a remote village, where there are no men. Here, the lovely folks at 9Honey have compiled some of the worst messages they’ve seen.

Welcome to our series, The Love Diaries – a space for you to share your experiences, advice, fairy-tale endings, setbacks and heartbreaks. We’ll be hearing from industry experts giving practical advice alongside Capsule readers (You!) sharing your firsthand experiences with love – from the woman who cheated on her husband with a work colleague, one woman’s temptation now the love of her life is finally single (although she’s not), and the woman who forced her husband to choose between her and his girlfriend. 

Ah, dating apps.

They can be the vessel that brings you the love of your life… but also, more often than not, they can be a cesspool of tragic fat-shaming, sexism and cruel comments.

From Tinder and Hinge to Bumble, women all over the world have shared their horrible experiences with dating apps.

Here is a collection of some of the worst conversations:

‘Sloppy seconds’

Attribution: Twitter

Twitter user Madison (@madisommelier) was understandably speechless by the suggestion made by one dating app match.

The conversation with an app user named Geoff began innocently enough, but quickly descended into the eyebrow-raising when he mentioned Madison’s dating profile had also attracted the attention of his father.

“[M]y dad just saw your profile because he was asking me what I was up to and he was like… wow! Would she be interested in an MMF or sloppy seconds haha,” he wrote.

“We have similar tastes.”

For the record, MMF refers to a threesome involving one female and two male participants.

“Umm,” Madison replied, “I think we may be on different pages.”

Fat-shamed in four words

Unfortunately, some people like to use their Tinder matches as their own verbal punching bag.

One woman, Maliah, was horrified to receive a fat-shaming message from her match Andrew on the dating app.

Posting the exchange on Reddit, Maliah sarcastically captioned the screenshot as “sweet darling”.

Soon after matching with Andrew, he had sent her a cruel note. “Pls lose some weight.”

Unfazed, Maliah replied with, “How romantic.”

Most people in the comments were scratching their heads over why the man would match with Maliah, only to leave her a rude, body-shaming message.

“So he matched with you just to tell you that? bro’s bored as hell,” one person mused.

“He matched with you and then negged you? That is so 2012 of him,” another added.

‘Worst men ever’

US woman Kate Langley was encouraged by friends to join the dating app Hinge.

But she was left immediately disappointed with a mean message written by her match, Victor.

One of the first notes she received read: “Your eyes are so far apart, you look weird and funny.”

The man then added: “But also nice at the same time with that smile.”

Langley shared her experience on TikTok, sharing a screenshot of the message in a video along with the description: “Is this negging or an insecure man?”

She added in the caption: “When my friends tell me hinge has the best people when in fact it has the worst men ever???”

Now we’re clothing shaming?

One man, George, matched with his Tinder date simply to insult her outfit.

Thea Chippendale, 20, was swiping through Tinder when a man she matched with decided to message her.

“Not gonna lie you’re a bit of a joke but that dress in the last photo is not doing any favours,” the man wrote.

“Hope this helps.”

Unsurprisingly, Thea was “gobsmacked” that George had gone out of his way to match with and then message her, just to criticise her dress.

Meant for someone else?

Samantha thought her date was the perfect gentleman before they met up for dinner.

The US woman had been exchanging text messages with a man named Jake and planned to meet for a drink after work.

His initial messages were sweet, with him describing her as “beautiful” in the lead up to their date.

But things turned sour when Jake accidentally sent a nasty text message to Samantha which was clearly meant for someone else.

“I’m sure you look beautiful either way. I’m a lucky guy to get to take you out,” one of his texts read.

Then, just three hours later, Jake sent a shocking message which had been accidentally sent to Samantha.

Alongside a photo of Samantha – likely from her dating app profile – the man wrote that she was a “solid 4”.

“No bro, she’s a solid 4 and I would for sure keep it on the low but desperate times call for desperate measures and beggars cant be choosers,” his unintentional text read. “All I saw was tits and an easy lay.”

Clearly realising he had sent the text to Samantha instead of its intended recipient, Jake tried to cover up his tracks in a follow-up message.

“Damn I’m sorry I didn’t mean to send that to you… I was talking about someone else and clicked your picture on accident. My bad.”

Needless to say, they never went on that date.

Accidental swipe

Singleton Susannah was baffled when her Bumble match pointed out he didn’t even want to “swipe” on her.

Sharing the exchange to Reddit, it was a clearly a case of drunk swiping gone wrong.

“I didn’t mean to swipe on you. Lol,” he bluntly wrote.

Apply to be my girlfriend at this link

Dating app user Elizabeth was sent a link by her potential date to fill out an application, with all sorts of questions about her personality.

She shared the questionnaire on TikTok, scrolling through the extensive document, captioning it: “Guy on Tinder sent me literal dating application.”

Most of the questions are focused on popular culture, asking the woman what her favourite Justin Bieber song is and why, as well as rather intrusive questions about her employment

Family ties

Kalynn opened the Tinder app and was horrified to find her younger brother was one of her matches.

“What the flip are you doing on here?” she asked her sibling, who apparently wasn’t even old enough to use the app.


This article was reproduced with permission from  9Honey. To read the original article, click here.

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