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This week we hear from a Guest Writer from 9Honey who forgave her partner for cheating, but has quickly come to regret that decision…
I was devastated when my partner Liam had an affair just a few months after we moved in together. I’d suspected something was going on. He stopped touching me and he is usually a very sexual person.
We had a really good sex life until then. I thought he’d just “gone off me” but it was because he was getting lots of sex from the woman he was seeing. I went crazy and I started to stalk her on social media.
This wasn’t very healthy as I was barely sleeping at the time and obsessing about him having sex with her. He promised me he’d be faithful after that and that he loved me.
I guess I was so desperate to be with him that I just forgave him and we moved on. He told me he had blocked his girlfriend and I believed him. So life went on as normal and our sex life was back on track. I had told a few of my friends that he’d been cheating on me and they’d all told me I should leave him.
I know it looked really bad that he would be cheating on me when we’d only been together for six months. Not that cheating is excusable at any time but you’d think we were still in that early “honeymoon period.” So I reassured my friends that if Liam ever cheated again, I’d be out of there.
So you can imagine how upset I was when about three months later, he cheated again! This time it was with a different woman and I found out because I had gone away for the weekend and when I returned, her car was in my driveway!
They were in the kitchen preparing something to eat and both of them looked stunned when I walked in. I went super crazy, screaming at her to get out of my house, yelling at him. She ran out of the house and sped away so quickly.
I wish I’d had time to throw some food at her, seeing as she was about to eat the groceries I’d left for Liam while I was away!
So I kicked him out. I told him he was out for good this time. He was very sheepish and very apologetic but he packed up a bag of his belongings and went away. I just sat on the sofa and sobbed for ages.
He kept trying to call me but I blocked him. In some ways I was relieved because it’s not easy living with a man who has been having sex with other women. It makes me feel like I’m a total loser.
But a few weeks later he came grovelling back to me and like an idiot, I forgave him again. My friends and family were horrified and begged me to end this relationship before it happens again.
I didn’t listen to them and I wish I had because he has cheated yet again. But I’m really trapped because I’m pregnant. I’m excited about having a baby but I’m very worried about the future with Liam.
He tells me he will definitely not cheat on me now that I’m about to become a mother. I’ve got no choice but to believe him.