What happens when you get married, but then realise that you’re in love with your husband’s brother? Eeeeeek.
Welcome to our series, The Love Diaries – a space for you to share your experiences, advice, fairy-tale endings, setbacks and heartbreaks. We’ll be hearing from industry experts giving practical advice alongside Capsule readers (You!) sharing your firsthand experiences with love – from the woman who cheated on her husband with a work colleague, one woman’s temptation now the love of her life is finally single (although she’s not), and the woman who forced her husband to choose between her and his girlfriend.
This week we check in with a story from a guest writer at 9Honey who shares a quite shocking confession about her marriage…
It was about six months into my marriage to Jon that I realised I get on with his brother Todd much better than I did with the man I married. Todd is his younger brother by 18 months but they might as well be twins. They look like twins, sound the same and are almost identical in every way – apart from their personalities.
I fell in love with Jon very quickly and then I fell pregnant very quickly too! We had a shot gun wedding and some people said it would never last. I don’t really think we would have married if I hadn’t been pregnant. Jon can be very blunt and manages to alienate a lot of people. I’d say he has anger issues and when we had our baby girl, he made it clear that he wasn’t going to be a hands-on father. Well, that was clear from the very beginning, as he rarely gave me any kind of help.
I always got on very well with Todd who is a gentle soul and always asks me if there is anything he can do to help me. There was a time that Jon was feeling burnt out by his work. He definitely wasn’t burnt out by fatherhood because he only ever does the bare minimum when it comes to our child. He acts as though I am always demanding when, in reality, I just ask him to do simple things such as help with bath time or the bedtime routine. Even that is too much for him, he feels like it’s an almighty chore.
One night Todd was visiting and when Jon refused to help with dinner and feeding time for my daughter, Todd stepped in. He is such a lovely man and I really wish I’d met him before I met Jon and that we’d been married. I can only dream! I fantasise about Todd every now and then – not just in a sexual way but it’s my fantasy to be with a man who actually cares for me and wants to help me.
If Jon ever does anything I ask, such as help fix the dishwasher, he makes out that I have done something terrible. I get a lecture about how busy he is at work and that he never has any time for himself anymore. What about me? When Todd witnesses one of Jon’s tantrums, he tries to settle him down. Jon loves to shout and wave his arms around. He recently told me I was a loser. Why? Because I didn’t cook his steak the way he wanted. Todd stood up for me, telling Jon he didn’t realise how lucky he was to have such a beautiful woman as his wife. This melted my heart.
Am I in love with Todd? Yes I am, but there is nothing I can do about it. I just have to be happy with him being close to me as a brother-in-law, but it will break my heart when he eventually meets a new woman and I take a back seat in his life.
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